Why do we date so few woman / men or we have only a few friends?

The mistake that we all do is believing in the sensation that there are so many people of opposite sex ( 6.5 billion people, 55% women ). That makes us think that we have, any time, an open door to some one. This reality becomes a problem when we reach some one that we like, because instead of giving all that we have, at the first problems, we think about the facts above written. We do that only to excuse our issue or the lack of interest for this area.

Many sensations fail to become true, and this one comes to argue the reality. We should consider this … as well to solve the dating equation:
1. How many opposite sex person we came along thru our inter life? I’ll take a very optimistic answer 5 million – opposite sex persons that you pass by ( and I’m very, very optimistic here ).
2. How many of those I really know that they really exist? The answer is quite scaring: 10.000 ( optimistic answer, too ). On the other hand you can say: a number above my powers. ( you’d better look at the others ingredients ):
3. how many are available ( because they are in a relation or they are married )
4. how many are unavailable ( other causes )
5. How many do you know to talk to?
6. How many do you like?
7. How many do they like you?
8. How many are compatible for a relation ( a long one )?

A simple calculation for all this will get you to this answer:
For a beautiful relation you have about 1 SHOOT !!!!!!

Be careful here because I’m talking about a relation that you dream for!

It’s possible not to get all the ingredients in the equation but the result ( again 1 !!!! ) will make your mind freak out?

I’m always optimistic so I’ll arrange a little bit the numbers. In this case the situation:
1. About 20-30 friends all of your life ( physically contact NOT sex ! )
2. about 3-4 friends that really disserve your interest
3. And when we decide for that one ( that we really want ) let’s hope that they are still available.

Now, I think that everybody has a plan for dating more ( about less than 1% form 6.5 billion ! )
As you read this words I’ll give you an advice: make it better ( at least the plan * 1000 ). That if you want that SHOOT to be yours !!!

Adrian Tufa-Dragos
Dating Trainer